10 kelemahan manusia

wah ini bener banget. coba deh disimak dan dipelajari. siapa tau berguna :)

Dalam hidup ini kita seringkali membuat berbagai kesalahan. Apa saja kesalahan-kesalahan yang sering dibuat tapi berakibat fatal.

1. MENYALAHKAN ORANG LAIN

Itu penyakit P dan K, yaitu Primitif dan Kekanak-kanakan. Menyalahkan orang lain adalah pola pikir orang primitif. Di pedalaman Afrika, kalau ada orang yang sakit, yang Dipikirkan adalah : Siapa nih yang nyantet? Selalu “siapa” Bukan “apa” penyebabnya. Bidang kedokteran modern selalu mencari tahu “apa” sebabnya, bukan “siapa”. Jadi kalau kita berpikir menyalahkan orang lain, itu sama dengan sikap primitif. Pakai koteka aja deh, nggak usah pakai dasi dan jas.Kekanak-kanakan. Kenapa? Anak-anak selalu nggak pernah mau disalahkan. Kalau ada piring yang jatuh,” Adik tuh yang salah”, atau “mbak tuh yang salah”. Anda pakai celana monyet aja kalau bersikap begitu. Kalau kita manusia yang berakal dan dewasa selalu akan mencari sebab terjadinya sesuatu.

2. MENYALAHKAN DIRI SENDIRI

Menyalahkan diri sendiri bahwa dirinya merasa tidak mampu. Ini berbeda dengan MENGAKUI KESALAHAN. Anda pernah mengalaminya? Kalau anda bilang tidak pernah, berarti anda bohong. “Ah, dia sih bisa, dia ahli, dia punya jabatan, dia berbakat dsb, Lha saya ini apa ?, wah saya nggak bisa deh. Dia S3, lha saya SMP, wah nggak bisa deh. Dia punya waktu banyak, saya sibuk, pasti nggak bisa deh”. Penyakit ini seperti kanker, tambah besar, besar di dalam mental diri sehingga bisa mencapai “improper guilty feeling”.Jadi walau yang salah partner, anak buah, atau bahkan atasan, berani bilang “Saya kok yang memang salah, tidak mampu dsb”. Penyakit ini pelan-pelan bisa membunuh kita. Merasa inferior, kita tidak punya kemampuan. Kita sering membandingkan keberhasilan orang lain dengan kekurangan kita, sehingga keberhasilan orang lain dianggap Wajar karena mereka punya sesuatu lebih yang kita tidak punya.

3. TIDAK PUNYA GOAL / CITA-CITA

Kita sering terpaku dengan kesibukan kerja, tetapi arahnya tidak jelas. Sebaiknya kita selalu mempunyai target kerja dengan milestone. Buat target jangka panjang dan jangka pendek secara tertulis. Ilustrasinya kayak gini : Ada anjing jago lari yang sombong. Apa sih yang nggak bisa saya kejar, kuda aja kalah sama saya. Kemudian ada kelinci lompat-lompat, kiclik, kiclik, kiclik. Temannya bilang: “Nah tuh ada kelinci, kejar aja”. Dia kejar itu kelinci, wesss…., kelinci lari lebih kencang, anjingnya ngotot ngejar dan kelinci lari sipat-kuping (sampai nggak dengar / peduli apa-apa), dan akhirnya nggak terkejar, kelinci masuk pagar. Anjing kembali lagi ke temannya dan diketawain.“Ah lu, katanya jago lari, sama kelinci aja nggak bisa kejar. Katanya lu paling kencang”.“Lha dia goalnya untuk tetap hidup sih, survive, lha gua goalnya untuk fun aja sih”.Kalau “GOAL” kita hanya untuk “FUN”, isi waktu aja, ya hasilnya Cuma terengah-engah saja.

4. MEMPUNYAI “GOAL”, TAPI NGAWUR MENCAPAINYABiasanya dialami oleh orang yang tidak “teachable”. Goalnya salah, focus kita juga salah, jalannya juga salah, arahnya juga salah. Ilustrasinya kayak gini : ada pemuda yang terobsesi dengan emas, karena pengaruh tradisi yang mendewakan emas. Pemuda ini pergi ke pertokoan dan mengisi karungnya dengan emas dan seenaknya ngeloyor pergi. Tentu saja ditangkap polisi dan ditanya. Jawabnya : Pokoknya saya mau emas, saya nggak mau lihat kiri-kanan.

5. MENGAMBIL JALAN PINTAS, SHORT CUT

Keberhasilan tidak pernah dilalui dengan jalan pintas. Jalan pintas tidak membawa orang ke kesuksesan yang sebenarnya, real success, karena tidak mengikuti proses. Kalau kita menghindari proses, ya nggak matang, kalaupun matang ya dikarbit. Jadi, tidak ada tuh jalan pintas. Pemain bulutangkis Indonesia bangun jam 5 pagi, lari keliling Senayan, melakukan smesh 1000 kali. Itu bukan jalan pintas. Nggak ada orang yang leha-leha tiap hari pakai sarung, terus tiba- tiba jadi juara bulu tangkis. Nggak ada! Kalau anda disuruh taruh uang 1 juta, dalam 3 minggu jadi 3 juta, masuk akal nggak tuh? Nggak mungkin!. Karena hal itu melawan kodrat.

6. MENGAMBIL JALAN TERLALU PANJANG, TERLALU SANTAI

Analoginya begini : Pesawat terbang untuk bisa take-off, harus mempunyai kecepatan minimum. Pesawat Boeing 737, untuk dapat take- off, memerlukan kecepatan minimum 300 km/jam. Kalau kecepatan dia cuma 50 km/jam, ya Cuma ngabis-ngabisin avtur aja, muter-muter aja. Lha kalau jalannya, runwaynya lurus anda cuma pakai kecepatan 50 km/jam, ya nggak bisa take-off, malah nyungsep iya. Iya kan ?

7. MENGABAIKAN HAL-HAL YANG KECIL

Dia maunya yang besar-besar, yang heboh, tapi yang kecil-kecil nggak dikerjain. Dia lupa bahwa struktur bangunan yang besar, pasti ada komponen yang kecilnya. Maunya yang hebat aja. Mengabaikan hal kecil aja nggak boleh, apalagi mengabaikan orang kecil.

8. TERLALU CEPAT MENYERAH

Jangan berhenti kerja pada masa percobaan 3 bulan. Bukan mengawali dengan yang salah yang bikin orang gagal, tetapi berhenti pada tempat yang salah. Mengawali dengan salah bisa diperbaiki, tetapi berhenti di tempat yang salah repot sekali.

9. BAYANG BAYANG MASA LALU

Wah puitis sekali, saya suka sekali dengan yang ini. Karena apa? Kita selalu penuh memori kan ? Apa yang kita lakukan, masuk memori kita, minimal sebagai pertimbangan kita untuk langkah kita berikutnya. Apalagi kalau kita pernah gagal, nggak berani untuk mencoba lagi. Ini bisa balik lagi ke penyakit nomer-3. Kegagalan sebagai akibat bayang-bayang masa lalu yang tidak terselesaikan dengan semestinya. Itu bayang-bayang negatif. Memori kita kadang- kadang sangat membatasi kita untuk maju ke depan. Kita kadang-kadang lupa bahwa hidup itu maju terus. “Waktu” itu maju kan ?. Ada nggak yang punya jam yang jalannya terbalik?? Nggak ada kan ? Semuanya maju, hidup itu maju. Lari aja ke depan, kalaupun harus jatuh, pasti ke depan kok. Orang yang berhasil, pasti pernah gagal. Itu memori negatif yang menghalangi kesuksesan.

10. MENGHIPNOTIS DIRI DENGAN KESUKSESAN SEMUBiasa disebut Pseudo Success

Syndrome. Kita dihipnotis dengan itu. Kita kalau pernah berhasil dengan sukses kecil, terus berhenti, nggak kemana-mana lagi.Sudah puas dengan sukses kecil tersebut. Napoleon pernah menyatakan: “Saat yang paling berbahaya datang bersama dengan kemenangan yang besar”. Itu saat yang paling berbahaya, karena orang lengah, mabuk kemenangan. Jangan terjebak dengan goal-goal hasil yang kecil, karena kita akan menembak sasaran yang besar, goal yang jauh. Jangan berpuas diri, ntar jadi sombong, terus takabur.Sudah saatnya kita memperbaiki kehidupan kita. Kesempatan terbuka lebar untuk siapa saja yang ingin maju.


Action may not always bring success, but there is no success without action.“
Usaha dan tindakan tidak selalu menghasilkan keberhasilan/ sukses, tetapi… Tidak ada keberhasilan dan sukses TANPA usaha dan tindakan.

Monday blues, Lazy Tuesday..

Dreading Wednesday.... blah weekdays! They are annoying. Looking forward to meeting huan2 and family.

Today felt extremely heavy and sleepy. The more I read about the health article, the more I feel that I have extreme lacking of rest. Time, it doesn’t fly but so many things, so little relaxed time. Most of the time in a day is used up tensely. Sitting behind 1.5 meter length letter L desk with laptop even it’s tuck in wheeled arm chair felt horrible, especially if you do it for 9 hours without long break.

A grand toilet with sofa in it would be awesome.

Buffalo wings

Haven't got the chances to taste this hottest buffalo wings in Singapore, after ages of peeking through this post. Will let you know when I did!

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The hottest wings in town
By yahoosingapore – June 17th, 2010

Tucked deep within a small corner of Seletar airbase lies a non-descript, no-frills joint called the Sunset Bar and Grill.

But strip away its friendly service and “Sunday barbeque” picnic feel and you’ll discover — at your own peril — that its kitchen is home to the hottest wings in Singapore (and, possibly, Batam and Malaysia).

By hot, i mean palate-busting, tongue-scorching, tear-jerking HOT.
I found out first-hand just how toxic its buffalo wings are when me and a couple of friends paid a visit to the cosy, well-hidden grill-cum-pub last Sunday.

The first thing you’ll notice is that it’s not easily accessible. It’s nestled so deep within Seletar airbase that as you drive in (walking is not advised), you’ll pass a series of crickety maintenance hangars for old planes. If you’re lucky, you might even pass a few fit-for-museum propeller planes and a private jet or two.

If you choose to sit alfresco in the early evenings, you’ll also get a good view of the sun as it sets. Situated literally right next to the Seletar airfield, it’s also not uncommon for low-flying aircraft and propeller planes to skim the horizon as they land or take-off.

The food is decent. It serves mostly western fare such as fish and chips ($15.50), mini-burgers ($14.50) and pork ribs ($29.80).

But the real highlight is, of, course, the wings. I’ll be the first to admit I love my chicken wings — fried, barbequed, buffalo, KFC or McDonald’s-style — I love them all. And upon first glance at the menu, I wondered to myself, “Come on, really, how hot can these wings be?”

In fact, when the friendly waiter advised that “rookies” like us should start with a ”Level 2″ (Level 1 and 2 are just normal chicken wings. Level 3 is when they start adding the chilli padi into the marinated batter and it goes all the way up to a Level 30), I scoffed and immediately ordered a half-dozen of “Level 3″ ($19.50).

The result? Suffice it to say it was an induction into hell on earth — in your mouth. Several gung-ho members of my group found the wings to be from a “Okay, what! Quite tolerable!” to a tear-squelching, “Can I have a pail of ice with my Coke?”

It got worse.

Seeing as we were already at the deep end, we took the plunge and went on to order a “Level 5″ before finishing off with a take-no-prisoners “Level 10″. Frankly, after a certain point, your tongue goes dead and you don’t taste anything. The secret? Wolf down the wings as quickly as possible and avoid the chilli paste stinging your lips and eyes.

Several Cokes and beers later, and after the mini-explosion in my stomach had subsided, I felt pretty pleased about myself — after all, I had conquered a “Level 10″ whereas the table beside ours was struggling to polish off a half-dozen “Level 5″s.

My sense of satisfaction was short-lived after I chanced upon the Sunset Grill “Chili Heads Hall of Fame” — a wall dedicated to the adventurous folks who’d tried the Level 30 and survived to tell the tale. It was…a pretty long wall.

Despite its ultra-hidden location, the establishment has a large loyal following. On a Sunday evening, the 100-seater or so bar was packed to the rafters.

Business was so good that the bar’s American owner, Jerry Griffis, 76, declined to have his picture taken.

The former businessman, who used to run an aerospace engineering firm and has been living in Singapore for the past 35 years, said, “I really don’t need the publicity. As you can see, I’ve got more business than I can handle right now.”

And he was right.

My friends and I weren’t the only ones crazy enough to tempt death by chilli.

Sunset Grill and Bar
Republic of Singapore Flying Club
140-B Piccadilly Road, Seletar Airbase
East Camp
Tel: 64820244
Open from 4pm (last order at 930pm)

Directions: Turn left at Seletar Army Camp and drive straight until you hit a small road called Seletar Aerospace View. Turn right and drive straight past a series of maintenance hangars and small planes by the wayside. You will find the open carpark of Sunset Bar and Grill beside the Republic of Singapore Flying Club.

http://sg.yfittopostblog.com/2010/06/17/the-hottest-wings-in-town/

Fact

It's two degrees of separation in Singapore-not six. Everyone is someone's NS buddy, ex-wife, insurance agent or Facebook friend.

O.O

i have big concentration problem now. it's probably the friday syndrome. i repeated mail franking for the same envelope for few times.

Dear manager is on MC today. The other finance girl on urgent leave.The remaining people for Lantiq treasury department are left with my head supervisor in her remoted office, a weird guy called Michael (don't let me explain he's just weird according to my weirdness-meter and lastly the youngest soul, a pathetic girl who is ranting on her blog and just lost her part of brain on cloud nine...

Friday is blue

Friday is a favourite day. I can wear whatever I like, or almost whatever, to office. It's the end of my weekdays, start of my "holiday". Weekend should be fun and exciting. But guess where am I now? at home! Will be at home till weekend's over, plus Monday! Can you imagine how boring i will be, when i'm already sick of the room light that blink every few seconds like a disco theme and cockroaches running everywhere in the house that made me keep my feet off the ground most of the time? Or every now and then when the electric bill come close to zero and the whole house turn dark and silent? Gees, it's worse than a haunted house.

Anyway, the doctor doesn't have any idea why the hell i have rashes on my face. I have to wait for dermatology appointment in Changi General Hospital they refer to, on 25th August! Repeat 25th august! That's the earliest they can book. Whaaaat is this. What if my rashes got worse. What if the company send me for rest. What if my school cancel my internship. I am as sure as hell have no idea what disease I am suffering nao.

Fighting simplicity is diffucult

Back back back.

After wandering into myspace, tumblr, or whatsoever social blogging site, i just can't resist to run back to blogspot's arms. I kind of stick to blogspot more than any blogging site.
so here i am. Typing from the 6th floor Lantiq office in 8 Kallang Sector, one of the most unique building in Kallang Industrial Park that you can easily identify Infineon Building as ship/cruise look-alike design from the expressway. Was it CTE, KPE, PIE? MUD PIE? Okay, no not another food. Although the breakfast was too light. Nooooo~

Today's weather is extremely lazy. If you ask me to describe the weather, it's probably like a heavy drizziling. I almost lost the to the temptation of rolling back to sleep this morning. The office atmosphere is filled with chattering and background sounds, but still, not able to warm the cold air and my freezing feet from the soaked palm flats and long winding walk to Infineon Building.
It's even colder after lunch, although driving out of working area to some well-know hawker centre to enjoy the sumptious fried fish with beehoon soup felt so good and refreshing.

3:33pm
Getting myself a cup of warm Ovaltine. Amazing taste. And smell. And warmth. Awww..Life's good.

tumblr for new year

i may have to abandon you for now, my blog.
packing up and moving to my tumblr account.

2009 have proven things beyond my thoughts.

though not everything could always turn out to be pleasant, every piece of it will become part of lesson for 2010.

thanks everyone for walking into my life and leaving footprint in it.
wish you well :)

Happy new year in advanced!

and it's been three years old, this blog.
bears enough of my overweight rantings, complains, opinions, feelings, pains, silences, awkwardness, bla bla bla just to fill out the space. :D

i decide to keep this blog, and create another one in another place. still thinking whether i should move to tumblr or anywhere else in 2010. ^^

meanwhile people,

ENJOY YOUR TIME AND PREPARATION FOR UPCOMING NEW YEAR!
which is like in less than 24 hours?

be it getting stockup for popcorn and watch TV programme like potato in your living room sofa
or out with the whole bunch of crazy creatures in the most luxurious place you could find
or just two of you, significant for each other by a place that has the most amazing view ever.

seriously, i had no plan for my new year.
for the first time ever.

note to self:
remember to take a look at the envelope you wrote to yourself last year. hah!

end of 2009

Condolences to Mr. Ex-President Abdurrahman Wahid a.k.a Gus Dur.

May you rest in peace and be accepted by God's side.

thinking of giving it a try. have been missing padang cuisine! (>.<)

looking forward to get those pair of armani 'recycled & modified' spectacles :D

thanks alot Asyiah! for bringing me to your school. and optics!

today officially felt like the first day of school even though had a lab test yesterday. it still felt like holiday. anyway, i should be in holiday now. because it IS a holiday season. and after tomorrow's 2 hours of noon lesson it would be the end of 2009.

man, that sounds nostalgic. 2009 felt like forever to me. since i saw it ending soon, that sentence

does not apply anymore. and this would probably be the last post for 2009.

anywayyy, i won't go sentimental any further.

thinking of how my eyes were so dry these few days thanks to Hai Pai Tian Xin. that drama seriously squeezed my tears out. enough of tears. i have never been so addicted in Taiwanese drama before. the last time i paid so much attention to a show was korean's Antique bakery. that drama is seriously beyond hilarious!

ps: prilly the roomie is doing whatever project she is doing, making herself repeat writing 'business' word thrice. her spelling memory seemed to be gone for the moment. maybe it's the blocked nose :D

Glee - True Colours

this is the way love goes,

it is fluid like tides or weather

just when it seems like it's going away,

it comes back

and even if it doesn't, that's okay.

~ The Geography of Girlhood, by Kirsten Smith.

i've been wanting to share the quotes to those who were too disappointed and hurt, for those who fell out of love, or in the midst of hope or anyone. you don't need to have expectations for love. because sometimes we ignore those who love us, adore the ones who ignore us, hurt those who love us, and love the one who hurt us. life is fair enough when you think as it is.

and i wish 2010 will be more amazing than 2009.

just like how tomorrow will be brighter than today.

making better than worst

"sometimes there's nothing to say. sometimes silence expresses more than words. picking up the phone, dialing a number, it can do more damage than good, but humans are afflicted with this obsessive desire to talk things to death, so we make things worse by trying to make them better."

that refrains me.

every piece makes my day

in short, my recent days had been fulfilling. to me it was meaningful enough. life wasn't as dull as expected. despite the hard and long hour work. despite the boiling blood waiting for HP hotline to pick up my call. despite freezing bus journey that caused me sitting numb. i still love everything that happen.

i've learnt that after completing three school reflectve journals within 2 hours for submission the next morning, it is best to back up every file i have. -.=

oh, i can just write another reflective journal here. just to bore you out.

anywayyyy, i got my baby back! yessss!
i have been missing my dear laptop for freaking 2 and a half weeks!

it feels so fresh and clean, like i just got a new one.
ok. maybe not very satisfied with the new and clean hard disk memory i have.
but who cares? it's not like all the memories i had inside are memorable. some too hurtful to bear. i should just erase them off. which i did, cuz i had no choice!

enough for the rantingggggs.
i can finally sleep peaceful tonight and rest since everything got back in peace
tee hee <3

note to self

http://weheartit.com/entry/308419

to risk is being alive

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk revealing your true self.
To place you ideas, your dreams, before a crowd
Is to risk rejection.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying. To hope is to risk disappointment.
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken, because the greatest hazard
In life is to risk nothing. Those who risk nothing, do nothing, have nothing,

And become nothing.
They may avoid present suffering and sorrow, but they
Will not learn, feel, change, grow, love, or live.
Chained by their fear, they are slaves who have forfeited
Their freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
And the realist adjusts the sails.”

- William Arthur Ward

YAY

yessss sah back to freedom mode.
i love this feeling <3

test is over over over.
this time round really really over. no more aderv postponed test. =D
get ITPM compilation done by tomorrow and yeah man!

hope that it i can get back my lappy soon. i miss it already.
and i feel so guilty having to use pril's everytime.
although she's studying now. hehe.

good luck and all the best for those still having exam!

silence is the best

Screaming and saying fuck a lot doesn't really get your point across.

Sometimes silence is the most violent option to choose.

torture your spontaneous

spontaneous things can make you dread a lot sometimes. (>.<)

i had no idea why i was following nez to Dover and looked for asy in her optical shop.
part of it probably breaking free from my studying ritual of staying at home for 2 freaking days. that almost drive me crazy. of course you get eye check up too. :D thanks asy for the service.

so we managed to fulfill our initial goal for studying. so we settled down in the sofa which so far is the most comfortable place and totally forgot about catching train back home. plus the starbucks is 24 hours. we stayed there till morning and finally get home at 3am. i tried my best to ignore the fact that i have 2 tests the next morning.

waking up early in the morning when no one in the house is awake, and you have to wake up from your 3 hours sleep for test. that feeling is dreadful.

but anyway, that was overrrr.
the celebration began. ignoring the fact of a postponed test the coming Wednesday.
fish spa and back massage. the feeling is indescribable. :D
steamboat. my tummy loves it.
how i wish everyday is like that.
(beside having to think of a way to slip my sleeping time in!)

*ps: BaliThai is amazing. lychiee martini chocolate is amazing. life is amazing. (after term test.)

square one

the whole morning was slept away.
i woke up with nobody at sight, just the sound of heavy pouring and thunder.
since when i got so stuck up with the thunder sound (>.<)
damn. i used to hear my grandma said, as you grow older, there are more things you worry.
maybe it's true.
now i got worried about thunder.

it's 12.50 pm, runch time.
having a warm soupy noodle is the best :D
off for meal!

. . .

2.14pm

so sleepy.
nobody's home yet.

. . .

3.02pm

great. i totally forgotten they are going to shut down electricity for one hour.
maybe i should sleep again.

. . .

6.27pm

woke up an hour ago. good thing light's on.
my mind was on paranormal activity the whole time. =S
they came home. housemates' here! phew.


a timelined friday.
having no school isn't a good thing after all.
thinking too much of irrelevant thoughts.
and it made me feel sick staying home all the time.

what is worse

Numbing the pain for a while will only make it worse when you finally feel it.

-Dumbledore-

(lovecanthurt.tumblr)

stuck between choices